What should I do if I am suspicious my partner has an STI?
All relationships are different. Depending on your relationship, the approach will be different. This is a situation that calls for clear communication, so you need to focus on your timing, approach, and reactions.
Tell them you think they might have an STI, but don’t mention where you think they got it from. Tell them that you care about them and you want to support them.
If you don’t feel comfortable having sex until they’ve been tested, tell your partner, and say that it’s for your protection. Also, once you know your partner is clear, and you have proper birth control, you will be more comfortable being intimate.
Offer to go with them to the clinic to get tested.
Consider getting tested yourself, regardless of your partner’s results.
It’s best to stay calm throughout the discussion and steer clear of assumptions. Assuming could cause a major fight, fallout, or worse. Your partner may not have an STI, for all you know.
Remember that communication is key here, and you and your partner’s health is more important than anything else. Regardless of what happens within your relationship, getting treatment is the priority, so there aren’t any issues further down the line.