- Think about your partner and how they usually react to unexpected news. Being pregnant is good and bad for different people and for different reasons, and you can’t control how your partner responds—you can only control your approach and your words.
- Consider your timing and when/where you want to share the news with your partner.
- It’s best to do this in private when you’re both focused enough to contribute to the conversation, and not when your partner is stressed, in a rush, or not in the state of mind to talk.
- Be honest about how you feel: nervous, scared, excited, sad, angry—your partner may share some of these emotions as well.
- Explain that you have some ideas about what to do, but want to discuss with them before making any decisions.
- If you don’t get the reaction you expected or wanted from your partner, that’s okay. This is big news, everyone handles it differently, and they may just need some space to think for a minute.
- If things don’t work out, remember your options and know that you’re not alone; recruit a support network