How do I talk with my partner about abstinence?
Choose the right time and place to talk; choose a quiet place free of distractions and a time when you or your partner are not caught up in thinking or doing something else.
Explain to your partner why you want to talk to him/her about abstinence- every person has different values; explain to your partner why abstinence is important to your values.
Tell your partner that abstinence can mean different things for different people, but strictly speaking it means no sexual contact of any kind, especially no penis-to-vagina contact, and, when used consistently, abstinence is 100% effective in preventing pregnancy and STI’s. Explain what abstinence means to you.
Intimate relationships require communication, and communicating abstinence intentions is important. Both partners should be in agreement on the degree of sexual activity that will and won’t be a part of your relationship.
Discuss ways in which you and your partner can enjoy each other and your relationship without having sex.